After meeting with Amanda (which you can read more about in our blog post “Coffee Date with Advice from a 20 Something”) and taking a class for my master’s program on social media, it made me begin to really question myself. Why are we obsessed with social media? Are we really using it for the right reasons? Is it causing more harm than good for our self-confidence? A recent book I just read called, “The Subtle Art of not giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson does a crazy good job at making you realize why do you actually care so much. Don’t worry, this is not one of my college papers and I am not about to site it in APA format – this is a true change I am making for myself. I thought I fell into that category of not being “obsessed” with social media until Brett would stare at me while we are having our ritual morning coffee before work as I am scrolling through my news feed. Okay, what is wrong with me? I am in my cute little apartment, drinking a yummy cup of coffee with one of my favorite people, and getting prepared to go to the best job in the whole world but yet I am scrolling through Instagram for the 3rd time this morning without even realizing I’m doing it!! OMG – problem! Luckily it only took me a book on Amazon to make me second guess myself before I have to go to therapy for this addiction society is throwing us into thinking is the norm!
I want to travel. If I had all the money in the world I would just pick up and go. The islands are calling my name! Sitting in an oceanfront room or better yet, a private hut overlooking the white sand beaches and clearest ocean imaginable sounds amazing. Where am I going with all of this? I had to actually ask myself just now because I stopped to look up a flight on Expedia. Anyways, hang tight while I remind myself I can’t afford that right now. But here’s my point, how easy is it to be scrolling through social media looking at everyone’s “perfect life” traveling, eating the most delicious food, drinking the best wine, enjoying their perfect boyfriend, flexing their toned arms while looking all beautiful in the gym. UGH – why is my life not like this! Why am I at home dieting to get my arm fat under control? Are my arms even fat or it just me because hers look amazing. What am I doing with my life?! Instant anxiety…
Okay no, stop it right there and put it in reverse – of course, everyone’s life looks perfect on social media – even mine! Yes, I walked though Club Sport tonight in my perfectly matching Lululemon outfit and planned workout routine looking like I knew what I was doing but what you don’t know is I ate an entire vegan arugula pizza to myself, argued with Brett on if he poured more than 8oz of Kombucha in his cup, wen’t back and forth on if I should pay the extra $2 for the organic cauliflower at the grocery store, and then stared at a bottle of wine telling myself no way because my “favorite job in the whole world” drove me absolutely crazy today.
There you go, in a nutshell, a picture doesn’t tell the whole story. Since New Years I have made a conscious effort to stay off of social media for the purpose of scrolling just to scroll. Why I am not living in the moment? Don’t get me wrong, I love to see other lives and what they are up to but in a healthy way! Make an effort to designate a short time to scroll through your social media platforms and in the meantime enjoy the little things around you! I promise you will be a more content and a happy person because there is nothing to compare yourself to. Don’t get caught up in the hype! This isn’t the stock market, there’s no money at the end – so enjoy life while you can! Go ahead, challenge yourself to a better, more content you!