We all strive to be happy. Of course! Who doesn’t want to be happy? But something that I’ve been reflecting on is that we really can’t rely on the people around us for our happiness. Should we surround ourselves with people who WANT us to be happy? Who are going to encourage us to live lives that help us to be the most joyful versions of ourselves? Absolutely! Should we rely on those people for our happiness and wellbeing? I would say, no. Our friends, family, significant others and coworkers are all human beings. There is no way that any friendship/relationship in our life is going to meet our every need. Expecting that of someone is providing them with an unreachable goal that they’re never going to be able to obtain, leaving our false expectations disappointed.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that people in our lives shouldn’t affect our happiness; that’s impossible. We of course want to surround ourselves with people who lift us up and who we can rely on. My point here is our happiness shouldn’t be solely dependent on another person. It’s our choice to make good out of the situation we are in. Yes, some days are just going to be crappy and that’s OKAY. But it’s our decision to wake up the next morning and move on from the previous days’ left-over grime. Too often do I allow other people’s actions affect the way that I feel throughout the day (or several days) and that’s something that I’ve been working on. I don’t want to be in a crappy mood all day because of something that happened at work or because I’m anxious over something I have no control over.
So this week, if you feel yourself getting worked up over something, let’s challenge ourselves to pause before we react, take a deep breath and try and change our mindset. Read an inspirational quote or Bible verse, pray, go on a walk or journal; do whatever personally works for you to let it go. If it’s a problem that’s unresolved that’s bothering you, try and solve it and move on. Life is too short to let something/somebody else affect our happiness. Let’s CHOOSE joy regardless of our circumstances.